Toxic relationships hurt psychologically, and they can also be physically damaging.
Toxic relationships can have severe effects on one’s health. They can be so powerful that they can sometimes cause irreversible damage to our bodies. They can even cost us our life. Digestive issues, migraines, depression, anxiety, high blood pressure and much more are the effects of one staying in a toxic relationship.
It is quite unfortunate but quite frequent that what started as a great relationship can often turn into a toxic relationship. Many individuals continue to ignore the toxic signs or just do not take notice of what is going on in the relationship. Children, careers, health issues and many other variables can affect one’s perception of the adverse/toxic effects that are taking place. Sometimes individuals do notice that things are not right. They keep trying to push the magic button each day to try to get the relationship back to beautiful and loving again. Time goes on, and our physical and mental health can develop severe ailments.
In looking at a toxic relationship from a biochemical approach, high-stress levels can manifest into a plethora of health issues. These problems can range from brain, thyroid, immune and weight problems. Many studies have shown a high correlation of toxic relationship stress and severe negative health issues like heart disease, cancer, kidney, digestive issues/failure and adrenal fatigue.
Signs of a Toxic relationship:
• Feeling tired or emotionally drained all the time, especially when around the toxic individual.
• Feeling bad about yourself all the time
• Feeling like you are always “giving” and never “taking.”
• Feeling like you do not belong, or as an “outsider” in the relationship
• Feeling emotionally and physically unsafe
What to do if you are in a toxic relationship:
This is the part that can be a little tricky.
We may answer yes to many of the signs that we are in a toxic relationship, but feel we have no hope or chance to get out of that relationship. Many fear, loneliness, isolation or even encounter a full blown identity crisis. Parents do not want to break up a family and/or fear of financial loss is often the most plausible issue in the situation. At times cultural influence can prevent one from leaving. There are so many reasons that people stay in a toxic relationship. The truth is one can stay but if the, all too common, adverse health effects become real- is it worth staying? What is the price on one’s life? If one loses their life over failing health as an adverse effect of the relationship, is the financial aspect worth one’s life? If a parent loses their life and the kids are now missing one parent, is that worth staying? These questions are quite real.
A recent study by Michigan State University indicated that there is a 35-40% risk of heart problems of those in toxic relationships. A study at the University of Denmark has shown that those in toxic relationships are 70% more likely to die 11 years sooner.
The best advice is to not go through it alone. One of the easiest steps to take is to seek therapy from a Qualified Relationship Therapist. The therapist will be an unbiased resource that will remain neutral as you transition through the major life change. You will have the freedom to share your feelings and gain a new perspective at the same time.
If you think you may be involved in a toxic relationship and would like support and comfort while sorting through your current situation, a therapist trained in working with toxic relationships can help make one’s path forward a much easier road.